Parents who love their children but don't always love their children's behavior-or their own responses to that behavior--will find powerful help in this book, which offers new discipline tools for new times. Dr. Becky Baileys unusual approach to parenting has made thousands of families happier and healthier. Why? Because her methods help parents as well as children maintain self-control while building confidence and competence in conflict situations.Based on Dr. Bailey's more than twenty-five years of work with children of all ages, "Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline" first helps parents become aware of how they treat themselves-because how we discipline ourselves is how we discipline our children. She teaches Seven Powers for Self-Control, which dramatically increase our resourcefulness in any sticky, situation with children from toddler through school age. From these we learn Seven Basic Discipline Skills to help children move "from willfull to willing" in day-to-day encounters at home and at school. As children internalize these skills, they naturally acquire Seven Values for Living, which include integrity, respect, compass Distributed by Syndetic Solutions, Inc.

A developmental psychology specialist and early childhood education expert, Bailey contends that the difficult but rewarding task of guiding children's behavior starts only when parents are able to discipline themselves and become models of self-control. By following the author's "7 Powers for Self-Control" (attention, love, acceptance, perception, intention, free will and unity), the parent will then be equipped to use the "7 Basic Discipline Skills" (including choices, encouragement and consequences). Bailey dismisses the familiar fear-inspired approach to discipline many grew up with (including threats and punishment), claiming that it inevitably leads children to make biologically driven choices and may even effect the brain due to the high levels of stress hormones released. Also rejecting the permissive parenting style now popular that favors "reasoning" (which, according to the author, imbues children with a victim mentality), Bailey instead promotes instilling an awareness of misbehavior through communication. Though some may be put off by the gimmicky overuse of slogans and buzz words, Bailey's underlying message is positive and hopeful, supported with humorous anecdotes and helpful solutions to even chronic discipline problems. (Feb.) Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information, Inc. From: Reed Elsevier Inc. Copyright Reed Business Information

Frustrated because your kid won't get in her car seat? Grumpy ever since your son decided that cleaning his room was optional? Ever feel bad after screaming at your kids for these and other things? Moans. Groans. Alas, parenting is no picnic. Bailey (There's Gotta Be a Better Way) acknowledges this and, in this insightful manual, suggests a disciplinary framework called "loving guidance." Loving guidance begins when parents learn seven "powers of self-control," which include acceptance and intention. Next, parents exercise seven basic discipline skills, such as empathy and maintaining composure. The goal is to teach kids the seven "values for living," including respect, compassion, and responsibility. Numerous, often funny lessons akin to those in Mark L. Brenner's When "No" Gets You Nowhere (Prima, 1997) help parents apply the concepts to daily life. Recommended for public libraries.Douglas C. Lord, Hartford P.L., CT Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information, Inc. From: Reed Elsevier Inc. Copyright Reed Business Information

Becky A. Bailey, Ph.D., holds a doctorate in psychology, with a concentration in early childhood education and development. Distributed by Syndetic Solutions, Inc.

Acknowledgements	VII
1. From Willful to Willing	1
2. The Seven Powers for Self-Control	25
3. The Seven Basic Discipline Skills	51
4. Assertiveness: Saying No and Being Heard	73
5. Choices: Building Self-Esteem and Willpower	97
6. Encouragement: Honoring Your Children So They Can Honor You	121
7. Positive Intent: Turning Resistance Into Cooperation	143
8. Empathy: Handling The Fussing and the Fits	165
9. Consequences: Helping Children Learn From Their Mistakes	187
10. Why Children do What They do: the Development of Misbehavior	213
11. Loving Guidance in Action: Solving the Top Discipline Problems	237
Parents Doing Their Job
"Stay in the yard and play"	241
"Get in your car seat"	241
"Clean your room"	242
"Finish your homework"	243
"Stop hitting your brother--be nice"	244
"It's bedtime"	245
"I'm stopping this car right now"	247
Children Doing Their Job
"I had it first"	248
"I'm telling"	249
"Look at me!" "Watch me!" "Watch me!"	250
"I didn't do it"	251
"I hate you"	252
"Why can't I? Everyone else does."	253
"Sydney isn't eating her peas"	254
12. The Loving Guidance Program: Change your Life in Seven Weeks	257
Epilogue	271
The "What-Ifs" Page	272
References	273
Index	277

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